Adulting

I have now completed 44 trips around the sun. The first few were sweetly dependent on my parents and what was going on with them. 

I grew up in a South American country, speaking both English and Spanish. 

I moved there at barely 5 and completely confused.  My word for “moon” was “moona” (moon + luna = moona)

Today, I am 44 years old. I live in Chapel Hill, NC. This is where I was born. 

I’ve been living here, this time around, since 2016. I moved here with my husband and my son 

I still have a husband. I have not lived with him in 2+ years. Our son is now 14 (will be next week). 

This is not what I planned. I am sure this is not what Chris planned. It’s our reality. I’ve learned a tremendous amount about myself, about mental health, parenting, and truth. 

At 44, I’ve also learned about individuality, honesty, and fearlessness. Especially  when it comes to accepting myself regardless of others expectations or ideals. 

I am a smart being. I am a compassionate being. I am a sexual being. And, I am a woman. I am also grateful. 

I have rebellious thoughts. I have strict rules. I have fantastical ideals of love. And I get reality. 

Surprisingly enough, more people than not, LOVE this about me. 

One would think that this is the answer to it all. 

It’s not. 

Not really sure what is. 

Adulting is knowing how to navigate it all. I can. I have. 

I don’t like it. 

I couldn’t agree more

I’m a philosophy professor.”
”If you could give one piece of advice to a large group of people, what would it be?”
”Never make an exception of yourself.”
”What does that mean?”
”People like to make exceptions of themselves. They hold other people to moral codes that they aren’t willing to follow themselves. For example, people tend to think that if they tell a lie, it’s because it was absolutely necessary. But if someone else tells a lie, it means they’re dishonest. So never make an exception of yourself. If you’re a thief, don’t complain about being robbed.”

— Humans of New York

After school Chat

Son:       Can I have a snack?

Mom:     Didn’t you have a snack in aftercare?

Son:       It was peanut butter. I told you, I want to be allergic to peanut butter.

Mom:     Why?

Son:       It dries up my mouth

A BIRTHDAY WISH

6 years ago the brightest light shone for the first time in our lives. Lior, you are a breath of fresh air, a reminder of simplicity and the obvious. You are beautiful innocence and the sweetest, funniest little guy. I am honored to be part of you, and proud that you are part of me. Happy birthday Coco. I love you no number 😉

Fewer things are more frustrating than Apple ID rules and iCloud

I never really thought i would be so negatively impacted by anything related to Apple. I love all my devices, and I own a few; however, Apple IDs, aliases, iCloud, etc. are the most annoying features. I realize that the idea is to have everything play nice together and give us the opoortunity toe have all are info replicated without flaw while we are on the move. The reality however is, that if you created your AppleID a bunch of years ago and you now deicde that you can no longer use idiot@me.com as your email address you need to create an alias, in which case you now have to make sure everytime you write an email from your apple mail client you need to make sure that the alias is the email address listed on the “From” section of the message header.

If you happen to be obsessively anal like me, and you don’t like having random email addresses listed and you just want to use the one, you may want to delete that alias and create a new Apple ID using that alias. But you can’t, because iCloud thinks that email address or Apple ID is already in use. So you breath in and decide to suck it up and re-add the alias to your original Apple ID, but you can’t. You must wait 7 days before you are able to create any new aliases. two months go by and you still can’t add an alias beacuse you “recently” deleted one; but you haven’t, it’s been over 2 months.

So you contact iCloud support and they have no clue how to help you. Every time they suggest a solution it ends up limiting your options for a new Apple ID even further. at the moment i am stuck with going back to gmail or creating a brand new “identity” for myself. But, i don’t want to. I am CKFio and I always will be. Why would they insist i chnage that? Wouldn’t it be easier and less aggravating for all parties involved to just allow for the merge of Apple IDs or the ability to delete one, etc.? I realize the implications of data integrity audits, etc. But you can modify old records to liberate the originals and alow users a bit more flexibility.

I welcome any comments or suggestions. I am beside myself with frustration and would LOVE a solution.